Wedding Invitations

Ask the officiant how he or she feels about the two of you exchanging your own vows, if that is what you would like to do. Some officiants are more strict than others about altering their traditional ceremony script.

If you must turn your back to your guests during the ceremony, be sure that at some point the officiant has you two turn around to look at your guests. The effect is very personal and dramatic.

Try to remember not to look just at the officiant during the ceremony. Look into each other’s eyes. After all, you are marrying each other, not your officiant.

If you have children from a previous marriage, ask your officiant how he or she plans to incorporate them into the ceremony. Discuss what you would like and how your officiant has handled this situation in the past.