Wedding Invitations

Ask each person to be in your wedding party in a special way. Try to ask in person or, if geography limits you, call or hand-write a card or letter. When you ask be sure to tell the person your reasons for asking—the important role he or she has played in your life—to convey what a true honor it is for you to have included them as an attendant.

Other honors you can bestow on friends who are not selected to be in your wedding party include having them do readings during or after your ceremony, be in charge of the wedding guest sign-in book, hand out programs at the wedding, sign your ketubah (Jewish marriage contract), or be extra ushers who escort guests to their seats.

When choosing your wedding attendants, think about who you would like to see in your wedding album twenty years from now.