Wedding Invitations

Considering that you see the office romances everywhere — TV couples, political couples, and maybe even your neighbors or best friends– the odds are good that a fair number of those romances will result in a walk down the aisle.  So, it’s not surprising that a new topic of conversation is becoming all the more off-limits while at the office:  weddings. 

The thing is, you should believe us that it’s not just wedding etiquette experts who say this, let’s correct that thought right now.  No, it’s also employers and co-workers who say this.  Why would it be that the wedding of an employee or co-worker would be not a good idea to discuss at the office? It’s very important to remember that while it is certainly a happy event, it’s unlikely that the wedding is a business-related issue, unless the employee is working for a florist, bakery, wedding planner, or other similar wedding industry business.  Or at least no need to discuss it endlessly with coworkers, only when asked.  For example, when a co-worker asks about the wedding, it’s generally best to give vague replies, such as, “it’s going very well, thank you.”  Keep it businesslike at the office whenever possible.

Another issue is that many couples are not able to afford to invite every single co-worker (and their spouses) to their reception, which is perfectly understandable in some ways, but hurtful to those not invited nonetheless.  Sometimes couples solve this problem by inviting just the boss (and spouse) and their closest workplace friend and spouse.  If a co-worker is upset about being left out of the wedding, explain that you value their friendship. But because you are having a small wedding you’re restricted.

That’s not the only guest list dilemma to consider here, but etiquette experts say that inviting the boss can be a good idea, because an employee’s relationship with his boss is important, and this could be a good way to strengthen it. However, please do realize that, if you can’t stand being in your boss’ presence, don’t feel obligated to send an invite.