Wedding Invitations

Considering the increasing number of workplace romances that result in marriage, it’s not surprising that a new topic of conversation is becoming all the more off-limits while at the office:  weddings. 

It’s not just wedding etiquette experts who say this, either…it’s also employers and co-workers, too.  Why would it be that the wedding of an employee or co-worker would be not a good idea to discuss at the office?  To begin with, happy event though it is, it’s unlikely that the wedding is a business-related issue, unless working for a florist, bakery, wedding planner, or other similar wedding industry business.

A couple’s wedding guest list is a major reason why etiquette frowns upon overdiscussing a wedding at the office.  Many couples are not able to afford to invite every single co-worker (and their spouses) to their reception, which is perfectly understandable in some ways, but hurtful to those not invited nonetheless.  Sometimes couples solve this problem by inviting just the boss (and spouse) and their closest workplace friend and spouse.  Etiquette experts say that inviting the boss can be a good idea, because an employee’s relationship with his boss is important, and this could be a good way to strengthen it. However, please do realize that, if you can’t stand being in your boss’ presence, don’t feel obligated to send an invite.

When a co-worker asks about the wedding, it’s generally best to give vague replies, such as, “it’s going very well, thank you.”  If a co-worker is upset about being left out of the wedding, explain that you value their friendship. But because you are having a small wedding you’re restricted.