Wedding Invitations

I ran across an article that had a very good question regarding a dilemma that many women apparently have when they are about to re-marry and send out wedding invitations. The question was “what last name do I use for myself on the wedding invitation if I’m a divorcee? Do I use my maiden name or my previously married name?” 

Some women choose to change back to their maiden name after their divorce. Perhaps there’s bitterness and she doesn’t want that daily reminder. Some women choose to keep their married name. Perhaps she kept it because her kids all have that last name. From personal experience, it always amazes me how truly an utterly confused people get when mom has a different last name than the kids. For some reason some people can’t wrap their minds around it.

In this particular case this lady didn’t feel it was necessary to change her last name. She had been using her married last name for so many years, that’s what everyone knew her by. 

There’s really no wedding etiquette “rule” to answer this question. It’s really what you as the bride are most comfortable with.

If you use a last name that most you’re your guest won’t recognize, it may cause confusion and raise more questions. Questions you don’t have time for. 

If you’re worried your friends from your pre-married years won’t recognize your previous married name, I wouldn’t worry so much. Chances are, most of them already know what it if you’ve been using it for a long time.