Wedding Invitations

Yahoo Answers had the following question about wedding etiquette: What should you write in a wedding card to someone you haven’t seen in almost 10 years?

The woman goes on to explain how she was once very close to the groom and his family. But over time they saw each other less often. Then suddenly she gets a wedding invitation. She feels awkward and wondered what the proper etiquette would be.

Obviously she wants to honor the relationship that was once quite meaningful to her and their families. The answer she chose was a cop-out to me. One that seems too impersonal. Here’s the advice she chose:

“…just buy a wedding card at the store say Congrats and best wishes and sign your name. Trust me, cards are most likely going to be glanced at, money removed if any, and then moved onto the next card.”

That could be worse than not answering. I like the rest of the suggestion better - to write a message about times they shared as children. You could add well-wishes to the family and how much their friendship meant. Then a little about how you want the bride and groom to have a joyous marriage and life together.

Close by saying how you appreciate being included and remembered at such an important time in their lives. A $50 bill tucked inside is a great way to punctuate the statement.