Wedding Invitations

Before making a decision on your bridesmaids and groomsmen, you may want to consider who you can trust not to make a scene when it comes to flirting or drinking too much. Then once you’ve made your decision, you may want to consider mentioning the “no flirt” and “limit your alcohol intake” rules to your bridesmaids and groomsmen. While most people know it’s common wedding etiquette knowledge not to fondle the guests, there are some that may need a little reminder.

Once of the biggest complaints that came up in a survey were that of the bridal party members obnoxiously flirting with the cute single guests. It didn’t help when some of the flirts had too much to drink.

In this particular situation the bridesmaid (who was always a little flirty anyhow) had a little too much to drink and lost all sense of personal space. She bounced from table to table giggling & shrieking with all the single men.  It became especially embarrassing when she moved onto the cute married men.  Not only was it embarrassing for the newlyweds, but it also made the guests feel extremely uncomfortable. Some of them even left early because of her. She was eventually escorted out and the friendship has been a little strained since then.

Another bride shared with me another story just as embarrassing. This time it wasn’t the bridal party flirting with the guests. It was a bridesmaid and groomsman flirting with one another. They couldn’t keep their hands off each other or stop mouthing flirtatious comments during the ceremony. It was so distractive that no one could focus on the newlyweds.

So please, please control the flirting and use some common sense.

Who to have in the bridal party can sometimes be a difficult decision, especially if you know many people and you don’t want to offend anyone. 

If you’re lucky you only know a few females. But what happens when your sisters, soon to be sister in-laws, cousins, friends and other gals you know, all feel they should be in the bridal party?

I’ve actually heard of some situations that got so out of control, people had to draw names from a hat. This way every potential bridal party member knew it was random and felt better about the decision.  It’s no wonder people elope ;0).

Sure you can have up to twenty five people in the wedding party, but keep in mind the more people in the bridal party, the more people there are to please. For example, the more women in your bridal party, the harder it is to find a dress that works for everyone.
Another thing to consider is are you going to have them stand in a line and have everyone shake their hand? That could take a very long time and people may get annoyed (both the bridal party and the guests). 

Unfortunately in many situations, regardless of what you do it’s inevitable there will usually be someone who’s hurt or offended. You can’t have everyone in the bridal party and people should understand that.

An understanding of wedding etiquette is a big deal for the bridal party, as everyone will notice them. Be sure to discuss the do’s and don’ts and how things are going to go on your big day.